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-====== diūmiànzi: 丢面子 - To Lose Face, Be Embarrassed ====== +
-===== Quick Summary ===== +
-  * **Keywords:** lose face, what does lose face mean, diu mianzi, 丢面子, Chinese culture face, mianzi meaning, social embarrassment China, saving face, losing face, Chinese etiquette, diū miànzi pinyin. +
-  * **Summary:** To **丢面子 (diū miànzi)** is a fundamental concept in Chinese culture, meaning "to lose face," get embarrassed, or be publicly humiliated. This page explains what it means to lose social standing or respect in various situations, from personal interactions to business negotiations. Understanding **丢面子** is crucial for anyone learning Chinese, as it unlocks the deeper cultural nuances behind concepts like honor, reputation, and social harmony. +
-===== Core Meaning ===== +
-  * **Pinyin (with tone marks):** diū miànzi +
-  * **Part of Speech:** Verb-object phrase +
-  * **HSK Level:** HSK 5 +
-  * **Concise Definition:** To lose one's social standing, reputation, or be publicly embarrassed. +
-  * **In a Nutshell:** Imagine your reputation is a tangible asset you carry. "丢面子 (diū miànzi)" is like dropping that asset in public. It's the feeling of shame or humiliation that comes from making a mistake, being criticized, or acting inappropriately in a social setting. It's not just about a personal feeling of embarrassment; it's about a perceived demotion in the eyes of your community, which can have real social consequences. +
-===== Character Breakdown ===== +
-  * **丢 (diū):** To lose, to misplace, to throw away. The character often depicts something being lost or cast aside. +
-  * **面子 (miànzi):** Literally "face." However, in this context, it doesn't mean your physical face. It refers to a person's honor, dignity, reputation, and social standing. It's the respect and prestige a person has within their social network. +
-  * When combined, **丢面子 (diū miànzi)** creates the very direct and literal meaning of "to lose one's face," which is a perfect metaphor for losing one's social prestige or honor. +
-===== Cultural Context and Significance ===== +
-The concept of "losing face" is one of the most important cultural keys to understanding social interactions in China and much of East Asia. While Western cultures have concepts of embarrassment and credibility, `面子 (miànzi)` is more profound and operates as a form of social currency. +
-In a collectivist culture like China's, an individual's actions reflect not only on themselves but also on their family, their company, and their social circle. Therefore, causing someone to `丢面子` isn't just a personal insult; it's a social disruption that can damage relationships (`[[关系|guānxi]]`) and group harmony. +
-A helpful comparison is to contrast `丢面子` with the Western idea of "being embarrassed." +
-  *   **Embarrassment** is often a personal, internal feeling. You might trip and fall and feel embarrassed, even if no one says anything. +
-  *   **丢面子** is inherently social and external. It requires an audience and involves a judgment (real or perceived) by that audience. It is the //public loss// of dignity. For example, being corrected by your boss in front of your peers makes you `丢面子` because your status has been visibly lowered. +
-Because of this, a huge part of Chinese social etiquette revolves around //preventing// face-loss for others, a concept known as `[[留面子|liú miànzi]]` (saving face for someone). This often means using indirect language, avoiding direct confrontation, and giving praise to "give face" (`[[给面子|gěi miànzi]]`). +
-===== Practical Usage in Modern China ===== +
-`丢面子` is a term used constantly in daily life, from casual chats to serious business dealings. Everyone is keenly aware of situations that might cause themselves or others to lose face. +
-  * **In Conversation:** People will often express fear of losing face as a reason for their actions. For example, "I have to do this well, otherwise I'll `丢面子`." +
-  * **In Business:** Causing a business partner to lose face (e.g., by pointing out their mistake in a meeting) can be catastrophic for a deal. Negotiations often involve carefully managing the `面子` of everyone involved. A subordinate would almost never openly contradict their boss in a group setting. +
-  * **In Family and Social Life:** A child's bad behavior in public can make their parents `丢面子`. Failing to properly host a guest can cause the host to `丢面子`. Being turned down for a date in front of friends is a classic `丢面子` scenario. +
-  * **Connotation:** It is always negative. It's a state that everyone actively tries to avoid. +
-===== Example Sentences ===== +
-  * **Example 1:** +
-    * 在这么多人面前批评我，你让我很**丢面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Zài zhème duō rén miànqián pīpíng wǒ, nǐ ràng wǒ hěn **diū miànzi**. +
-    * English: Criticizing me in front of so many people, you made me lose a lot of face. +
-    * Analysis: This is a classic example. The key elements are a public setting ("in front of so many people") and a status-lowering action ("criticizing me"). +
-  * **Example 2:** +
-    * 儿子考试不及格，让他在亲戚面前很**丢面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Érzi kǎoshì bù jígé, ràng tā zài qīnqi miànqián hěn **diū miànzi**. +
-    * English: His son failing the exam made him lose face in front of the relatives. +
-    * Analysis: This highlights the collective nature of `面子`. The son's failure directly reflects on the father's reputation within the extended family. +
-  * **Example 3:** +
-    * 我不想问这个简单的问题，我怕**丢面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Wǒ bùxiǎng wèn zhège jiǎndān de wèntí, wǒ pà **diū miànzi**. +
-    * English: I don't want to ask this simple question, I'm afraid of losing face. +
-    * Analysis: This shows how the fear of `丢面子` can prevent someone from acting, as admitting ignorance can be seen as a loss of face. +
-  * **Example 4:** +
-    * 在重要的晚宴上穿得太随便会很**丢面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Zài zhòngyào de wǎnyàn shàng chuān de tài suíbiàn huì hěn **diū miànzi**. +
-    * English: Dressing too casually at an important dinner party would be very embarrassing (cause one to lose face). +
-    * Analysis: This demonstrates that `丢面子` can be about failing to meet social expectations and norms. +
-  * **Example 5:** +
-    * 老板，这个项目要是失败了，我们都会**丢面子**的。 +
-    * Pinyin: Lǎobǎn, zhège xiàngmù yàoshi shībài le, wǒmen dōu huì **diū miànzi** de. +
-    * English: Boss, if this project fails, we will all lose face. +
-    * Analysis: Face can be lost collectively. The failure of a team project brings shame and loss of reputation to everyone involved, especially the leader. +
-  * **Example 6:** +
-    * 他觉得当众被女朋友拒绝是一件很**丢面子**的事。 +
-    * Pinyin: Tā juédé dāngzhòng bèi nǚpéngyǒu jùjué shì yī jiàn hěn **diū miànzi** de shì. +
-    * English: He feels that being rejected by his girlfriend in public is a matter of great face-loss. +
-    * Analysis: Public rejection is a direct hit to one's social standing and self-esteem, making it a prime example of `丢面子`. +
-  * **Example 7:** +
-    * 连自己的客人都招待不好，真是**丢面子**丢到家了！ +
-    * Pinyin: Lián zìjǐ de kèrén dōu zhāodài bù hǎo, zhēnshi **diū miànzi** diū dào jiā le! +
-    * English: To not even be able to host one's own guests well, that's the ultimate loss of face! +
-    * Analysis: The phrase "丢到家了" (diū dào jiā le - lost to home) is an intensifier, meaning to lose face completely or to the highest degree. +
-  * **Example 8:** +
-    * 为了不**丢面子**，他假装自己听懂了老板说的话。 +
-    * Pinyin: Wèile bù **diū miànzi**, tā jiǎzhuāng zìjǐ tīng dǒng le lǎobǎn shuō de huà. +
-    * English: In order not to lose face, he pretended he understood what the boss said. +
-    * Analysis: This illustrates a common behavior modification—people will often pretend or lie to avoid the shame associated with `丢面子`. +
-  * **Example 9:** +
-    * 这次比赛我们输了，但只要尽力了，就不算**丢面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Zhè cì bǐsài wǒmen shū le, dàn zhǐyào jìnlì le, jiù bù suàn **diū miànzi**. +
-    * English: We lost this competition, but as long as we tried our best, it doesn't count as losing face. +
-    * Analysis: This shows a nuance. Losing is not automatically `丢面子` if one maintains honor and dignity through effort. It's about //how// you lose. +
-  * **Example 10:** +
-    * 你这么做，不仅**丢**自己的**面子**，也**丢**了公司的**面子**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Nǐ zhème zuò, bùjǐn **diū** zìjǐ de **miànzi**, yě **diū** le gōngsī de **miànzi**. +
-    * English: By doing this, you not only lose your own face, but you also lose face for the company. +
-    * Analysis: This clearly shows the link between individual and collective face. The term `丢面子` is a verb-object phrase, so you can separate "丢" and "面子" to insert other words, like "自己的" (one's own). +
-===== Nuances and Common Mistakes ===== +
-  * **Mistake 1: Confusing `丢面子` with simple awkwardness (`尴尬 gāngà`).** +
-    * Forgetting your keys is `尴尬` (awkward). Forgetting your keys and causing your important guest to wait outside in the rain for an hour is `丢面子`. The key difference is the public consequence and the damage to your reputation as a competent host. +
-    * **Incorrect:** 我忘了我的钱包，真**丢面子**。(Wǒ wàngle wǒ de qiánbāo, zhēn diū miànzi.) +
-    * **Reason:** This is an inconvenience, not a social failure. +
-    * **Correct:** 我忘了我的钱包，真**尴尬**。(Wǒ wàngle wǒ de qiánbāo, zhēn gāngà.) +
-  * **Mistake 2: Being too direct with criticism or feedback.** +
-    * In many Western cultures, direct, constructive feedback is valued. However, giving such feedback publicly in China can easily cause the recipient to `丢面子`. This is a major cultural pitfall for foreigners. Always try to offer suggestions or corrections in private to help the other person `留面子` (save face). +
-  * **Mistake 3: Underestimating the severity.** +
-    * For a learner, `丢面子` might seem like a dramatic way to say "embarrassed." But in many contexts, the implications are much more serious. Causing a superior or a business partner to `丢面子` can have lasting negative effects on your relationship and career. It's a concept to be taken very seriously. +
-===== Related Terms and Concepts ===== +
-  * [[面子]] (miànzi) - The core concept of "face," social standing, and reputation that can be lost, given, or saved. +
-  * [[给面子]] (gěi miànzi) - To give face; to show someone respect, to defer to them, or to do them a favor to build their prestige. +
-  * [[留面子]] (liú miànzi) - To save face for someone; to tactfully avoid mentioning their mistake or shortcoming to prevent their embarrassment. +
-  * [[没面子]] (méi miànzi) - To have no face; the state of being embarrassed or having lost one's reputation. Often used as an adjective, e.g., "我觉得很没面子" (I feel very embarrassed/faceless). +
-  * [[丢人]] (diūrén) - To be disgraced, to lose face. Very similar to `丢面子` and often used interchangeably, though it can sometimes feel slightly more informal or stronger. Literally "to lose the person." +
-  * [[不要脸]] (bú yào liǎn) - Shameless; literally "to not want face." This is a very strong insult, far worse than `丢面子`. It implies someone has no sense of honor and intentionally disregards social norms. +
-  * [[尴尬]] (gāngà) - Awkward, embarrassed. Refers more to the internal, personal feeling of awkwardness rather than the external, social loss of status. +
-  * [[关系]] (guānxi) - Relationships, social networks, connections. The management of `面子` is essential for building and maintaining good `关系`.+