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-====== xiánqì: 嫌弃 - To Dislike and Avoid, To Disdain, To Scorn ====== +
-===== Quick Summary ===== +
-  * **Keywords:** xianqi, xiánqì, 嫌弃, how to say dislike in Chinese, meaning of xianqi, disdain in Chinese, to scorn, look down on, avoid someone in Chinese, 嫌弃 vs 讨厌, Chinese verb for disdain +
-  * **Summary:** Learn the true meaning of **嫌弃 (xiánqì)**, a common and powerful Chinese verb that goes beyond simple dislike. This page breaks down what it means to **嫌弃 (xiánqì)**—to disdain, scorn, or look down on someone or something to the point of wanting to avoid or get rid of them. Discover its cultural nuances in family and social life, see practical examples, and learn the crucial difference between **嫌弃 (xiánqì)** and **讨厌 (tǎoyàn)** to sound more like a native speaker. +
-===== Core Meaning ===== +
-  * **Pinyin (with tone marks):** xiánqì +
-  * **Part of Speech:** Verb +
-  * **HSK Level:** HSK 5 +
-  * **Concise Definition:** To dislike and scorn someone or something as inferior, troublesome, or dirty, often with a desire to avoid or discard them. +
-  * **In a Nutshell:** **嫌弃 (xiánqì)** is not just "dislike." It's a feeling of looking down on something or someone and wanting to push them away. Imagine finding a hair in your soup. You don't just dislike it; you feel it's disgusting, it has ruined your meal, and you want it gone immediately. That feeling of rejection and disdain is the core of **嫌弃**. It implies judgment. +
-===== Character Breakdown ===== +
-  * **嫌 (xián):** This character means "to dislike," "to resent," or "to find fault with." It's composed of the woman radical `女 (nǚ)` and `兼 (jiān)`, which provides the sound. Think of it as a complex, deep-seated form of dislike or suspicion. +
-  * **弃 (qì):** This character means "to abandon," "to discard," or "to cast aside." The image is of throwing something away because it's no longer wanted or useful. +
-  * Together, **嫌 (dislike/find fault) + 弃 (abandon/discard)** create a vivid word: to dislike something so intensely that you want to cast it aside. +
-===== Cultural Context and Significance ===== +
-  * In Chinese culture, which often emphasizes interpersonal relationships and face (`面子`), being the object of **嫌弃** is particularly cutting. It's a direct form of social rejection. +
-  * The term is frequently used within family dynamics. A traditional mother-in-law might **嫌弃** her daughter-in-law for not being a good cook. Parents might **嫌弃** their child for choosing an "unstable" career. This isn't just disapproval; it's a deep-seated feeling that the person's actions or qualities are a source of trouble or shame for the family. +
-  * **Comparison to Western Concepts:** While it's similar to the English "to scorn" or "to disdain," **嫌弃** is used more commonly in everyday life and often relates to very practical matters. An American might "look down on" someone for their beliefs, but a Chinese person might **嫌弃** a friend for being a messy roommate or **嫌弃** a gift for being too cheap. The feeling is less about abstract social class and more about the tangible, bothersome qualities of a person or thing in a specific context. It's a very personal and direct form of judgment. +
-===== Practical Usage in Modern China ===== +
-  * **Serious Contexts:** **嫌弃** is a strong word. If someone seriously says they **嫌弃** you, it's a harsh criticism and a sign of a major problem in the relationship. +
-    * Example: In a failing marriage, one might say, “他开始**嫌弃**我了” (Tā kāishǐ xiánqì wǒ le) - "He's started to scorn/disdain me." +
-  * **Everyday Complaints:** It's often used to describe disliking things for being old, dirty, or inconvenient. +
-    * Example: “我**嫌弃**这个手机太旧了，想换个新的。” (Wǒ xiánqì zhège shǒujī tài jiù le, xiǎng huàn ge xīn de.) - "I disdain this phone for being too old; I want to get a new one." +
-  * **Joking and Humility:** Among friends, **嫌弃** can be used in a joking, hyperbolic way to soften a request or show humility. +
-    * Example: When offering a friend a simple, home-cooked meal, you might say, “随便做的，你别**嫌弃**啊！” (Suíbiàn zuò de, nǐ bié xiánqì a!) - "I just whipped this up, please don't scorn it!" This is a polite and common phrase. +
-===== Example Sentences ===== +
-  * **Example 1:** +
-    * 他总是**嫌弃**妻子做的饭不好吃。 +
-    * Pinyin: Tā zǒngshì **xiánqì** qīzi zuò de fàn bù hǎochī. +
-    * English: He always scorns his wife's cooking, finding it unpalatable. +
-    * Analysis: This is a classic, serious use of **嫌弃**. It's not just that he dislikes it; he looks down on her cooking ability, which is a strong criticism. +
-  * **Example 2:** +
-    * 你要是**嫌弃**我穷，我们就分手吧。 +
-    * Pinyin: Nǐ yàoshi **xiánqì** wǒ qióng, wǒmen jiù fēnshǒu ba. +
-    * English: If you look down on me for being poor, then let's break up. +
-    * Analysis: Here, **嫌弃** is tied to a person's social-economic status. It implies a deep judgment about their worth as a partner. +
-  * **Example 3:** +
-    * 这件衣服是我妈妈给我买的，你可别**嫌弃**。 +
-    * Pinyin: Zhè jiàn yīfu shì wǒ māma gěi wǒ mǎi de, nǐ kě bié **xiánqì**. +
-    * English: My mom bought me these clothes, so you'd better not turn your nose up at them. +
-    * Analysis: This is a defensive, slightly playful use. The speaker is preemptively telling the listener not to judge the clothes, perhaps because they are not fashionable. +
-  * **Example 4:** +
-    * 我的猫很挑剔，它好像**嫌弃**我给它的猫粮。 +
-    * Pinyin: Wǒ de māo hěn tiāotī, tā hǎoxiàng **xiánqì** wǒ gěi tā de māoliáng. +
-    * English: My cat is very picky; it seems to disdain the cat food I give it. +
-    * Analysis: This is a very common, humorous personification. The cat isn't just disliking the food; it's acting "snobby" about it. +
-  * **Example 5:** +
-    * 虽然这个礼物不贵，但你千万不要**嫌弃**，这是我的一片心意。 +
-    * Pinyin: Suīrán zhège lǐwù bù guì, dàn nǐ qiānwàn bùyào **xiánqì**, zhè shì wǒ de yīpiàn xīnyì. +
-    * English: Although this gift isn't expensive, please don't disdain it; it's a token of my appreciation. +
-    * Analysis: This phrase, “不要嫌弃” (bùyào xiánqì), is a very common and polite way to present a humble gift. +
-  * **Example 6:** +
-    * 他因为工作能力差，被老板**嫌弃**了。 +
-    * Pinyin: Tā yīnwèi gōngzuò nénglì chà, bèi lǎobǎn **xiánqì** le. +
-    * English: He was disdained by his boss because of his poor work performance. +
-    * Analysis: This uses the passive structure `被 (bèi)`, meaning "to be disdained/scorned." It highlights the negative judgment he received. +
-  * **Example 7:** +
-    * 别**嫌弃**这地方小，能有个住的地方就不错了。 +
-    * Pinyin: Bié **xiánqì** zhè dìfang xiǎo, néng yǒu ge zhù de dìfang jiù bùcuò le. +
-    * English: Don't look down on this place for being small; we're lucky to have a place to live at all. +
-    * Analysis: This is used to advise someone to be more grateful and less judgmental about their circumstances. +
-  * **Example 8:** +
-    * 我来你家住几天，你不会**嫌弃**我吧？ +
-    * Pinyin: Wǒ lái nǐ jiā zhù jǐ tiān, nǐ bùhuì **xiánqì** wǒ ba? +
-    * English: I'm coming to stay at your place for a few days, you won't find me a bother, will you? +
-    * Analysis: A classic example of using **嫌弃** jokingly between friends. The speaker is asking for reassurance that they won't be seen as a troublesome guest. +
-  * **Example 9:** +
-    * 很多城里人**嫌弃**农村脏乱差。 +
-    * Pinyin: Hěn duō chénglǐrén **xiánqì** nóngcūn zāng luàn chà. +
-    * English: Many city dwellers look down on the countryside for being dirty, messy, and poor. +
-    * Analysis: This shows **嫌弃** used to describe a broad social attitude or prejudice. +
-  * **Example 10:** +
-    * 她一脸**嫌弃**地看着我油腻的头发。 +
-    * Pinyin: Tā yī liǎn **xiánqì** de kànzhe wǒ yóunì de tóufa. +
-    * English: She looked at my greasy hair with a look of pure disdain. +
-    * Analysis: The phrase `一脸嫌弃 (yī liǎn xiánqì)` means "a face full of disdain." It's a very descriptive and common collocation. +
-===== Nuances and Common Mistakes ===== +
-  * **`嫌弃 (xiánqì)` vs. `讨厌 (tǎoyàn)`: The Biggest Pitfall** +
-    * This is the most common point of confusion for learners. +
-    * **`讨厌 (tǎoyàn)`** = to dislike, to find annoying. It's a general feeling about something you don't like. It does not imply judgment of value or worth. +
-      * Correct: 我**讨厌**下雨天。(Wǒ **tǎoyàn** xià yǔ tiān.) - I dislike rainy days. +
-    * **`嫌弃 (xiánqì)`** = to dislike + look down on + want to avoid. It implies the object of dislike is inferior, dirty, or troublesome. You cannot **嫌弃** the weather because it is not something you can judge as "inferior" and "discard." +
-      * Incorrect: 我**嫌弃**下雨天。(Wǒ **xiánqì** xià yǔ tiān.) +
-      * Correct: 我**嫌弃**这双又湿又脏的鞋。(Wǒ **xiánqì** zhè shuāng yòu shī yòu zāng de xié.) - I disdain these wet and dirty shoes. +
-  * **False Friend: Not Just "Dislike"** +
-    * Do not simply translate "dislike" as **嫌弃**. "Dislike" is almost always better translated as `不喜欢 (bù xǐhuan)` or `讨厌 (tǎoyàn)`. Use **嫌弃** only when the meaning of "scorn," "disdain," or "looking down on" is present. +
-===== Related Terms and Concepts ===== +
-  * [[讨厌]] (tǎoyàn) - A less intense term meaning "to dislike" or "to find annoying." The most important term to distinguish from **嫌弃**. +
-  * [[看不起]] (kànbuqǐ) - A close synonym meaning "to look down on" or "to hold in contempt." **看不起** often relates more to someone's ability, character, or social status, while **嫌弃** can also relate to things being dirty, old, or inconvenient. +
-  * [[鄙视]] (bǐshì) - A more formal and literary synonym for "to despise" or "to disdain." You'll see it in writing more than you'll hear it in casual conversation. +
-  * [[抛弃]] (pāoqì) - The action that may result from **嫌弃**. It means "to abandon," "to discard," or "to forsake" (e.g., to abandon a pet or a partner). +
-  * [[挑剔]] (tiāotī) - To be picky or fussy. A person who is very `挑剔` is likely to `嫌弃` many things. +
-  * [[抱怨]] (bàoyuàn) - To complain. You might `抱怨` about something you `嫌弃`, but complaining is the action of voicing displeasure, while `嫌弃` is the underlying feeling of disdain. +
-  * [[恶心]] (ěxīn) - To feel nauseated; disgusting. This is the physical or emotional feeling of revulsion that often accompanies **嫌弃**. If you **嫌弃** something, you probably also find it `恶心`.+